i think i've had many defining moments, in different respect.

the moment i read (and began to love) anne of green gables was one of the most defining. i learned to love to read (which is something that still brings me immense pleasure), and anne strongly influenced my viewpoint on life. i pretty much became who i was (internally) in the course of my obsession with aogg.

next to that, my relationship with my ex-boyfriend is pretty defining. i grew emotionally in ways i'll always refer back to.

my high school years were very defining in that, in retrospect, they were a period when i learned to love learning. it's a side of myself i've discovered, and will revisit time and again. i grew mentally.

in a different way, my current university years are again defining because i'm learning in "baptism by fire" to be independent and to be socially initiated. i figured things out for myself. i feel old.